Finding the 'Way In' on a First Date

For every women in the world, there is something a man can do or say to seal the booty deal. When a man finds a woman that interests him, getting a date is only the first goal. The second and more important goal is to find the way in on that first date. First impressions are always important with women, and the time afforded is time to shine. Frequently spoken in polite society as "a way to a woman's heart," a more accurate description of this challenge is choosing the right dating method for success. Although the way in is different for every woman sought by a man, there are common trends all men can understand. This is especially true taking into account the underlying motivations and capabilities of the modern woman. Every women will possess a way into their heart, and a good man knows what approach to start.


There are four common methods when finding a way in. By perpetrating a date with a certain method of approach, the possibility of success is greatly increased.

1) The Smart Play

Women who are intellectual and deep want to see a man display creativity, appreciation of art, contemplation of natural beauty and a willingness to participate in cultural events. This is known as the smart play, and requires a man to put a real effort into interest in what the woman is interested. A man need not understand these interests, however, as a lie is not a lie if you believe it. (Seinfeld).

2) The Bad Boy

Women who are rebellious and not "good girls" want to see a man display counter cultural morals, rejection of authority, toughness, and bluster. This is known as being the bad boy, and requires a man to stop being a good guy and get on the edge of life. All men can be the bad boy if they try, and approaching a situation as a reformed bad boy is sometimes a great move.

3) Sensitive Man

Most women want genuine sensitivity and caring, and a man must display notions of heart felt feelings, love, sympathy and kindness. This is usually in the extreme for an ordinary man, who just wants to bang and have fun without hassle. This approach is called the sensitive man. When chosen correctly for a particular women of interest, the way in will present itself in time.

4) The Jerk
There are some women who don't mind, and even seek out, apathetic and disrespectful behavior. Although a low down shame, the technique of being a jerk works in many situations. Keeping them mad, being insensitive, taking full control and being without sympathy is key to being a real jerk. There is usually a good man in the wings somewhere when a jerk gets the girl.

The approach to take depends on the type of women to make. Although some would say this is a disingenuous means of gaining favor, (the just be yourself crowd), any success with women is better than nothing. Holding yourself by yourself at the end of the night is no bargain. Further proof of a worthy man is his ability to assess a situation and play it well. Courting women in the modern world is no easy affair, and any advantage for men should always be well received. Men are generally stupid when it comes to women, and therefore need every avenue to find a way in.